• The methods of communication used to ask a girl out (ahem, dating apps) are now fairly informal, but don't get caught up in the texting game—step up and ask the girl out. It's convenient to get to know each other via texts, but they can only go so far. Before your thumbs get out of control, plan to meet up with her in person to get things moving.

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  • Of course, both parties can be involved in planning the date, but it's a cool move for you to have a handful of ideas. Then you can ask her what she prefers. But, it should be your responsibility to do the actual planning and make the dinner reservation.

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  • Traditionally, a guy should pick up his date—but that rule has become slightly less common since many people in the dating scene live in big cities and meeting at the set location just makes more sense. (Not to mention, most people meet on dating apps now, so this is the safer option.) But, it's polite for the guy to choose a location that's closer to where she lives and arrive before her.

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  • This is an important rule no matter how many dates you've been on or however many years you've been married. Open doors for her, walk on the left side of the sidewalk, and guide her through a busy crowd. These simple acts show that you have a grasp of basic gentlemanly behaviour.

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  • On a first date, the girl will generally dictate the flow of the evening. It's your job to try and replicate how much or how little she drinks and ask questions like, "Do you want another round?" Pay attention to her actions, and don't assume she has time to sit through another hour of two of drinks.

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  • On a first date, pretend it's the 1950s and cell phones don't exist. Keep it on silent in your pocket and don't bring it out, unless of course she goes to the bathroom. Checking your phone often on a first date is one of the biggest no-nos there is.

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  • If you ask her out, you should be the one paying. Even if she offers, don't accept. And don't even think about splitting the bill. Be adamant about paying—you are the one who asked her to meet up, afterall.

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  • Don't have sex on the first date. Just don't. Sure, there are exceptions to this: like if you have this long, built-up history with someone, and you finally reach a point where you are both single and can't contain your excitement for each other, but, if you want it to last, then you'll keep it to nothing more than non-promiscuous touching and a kiss goodnight.

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  • Do what you can to make sure she gets home okay (or wherever she's headed next). Walk her home, to the subway, or call her a cab.

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