• You get all types of questions and reactions on your hair. I literally had to stop wearing my longer braids because I got way too much attention. I think it's pure curiosity and not anything bad, but the attention is very weird.

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  • You can't help but be drawn into conversations about diversity all the time. I mean, the slightest mention of the word "diversity" gets me all tense because I already know that so many people just don't get it, and they will likely say something insensitive. It's probably time to lower my expectations, but it's not easy to do that.

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  • You will never have water cooler conversations over "Love and Hip Hop," RHOATL, "Wendy Williams," or any other show starring more than 50 percent black people. Brush up on your night-time television and sports knowledge because that's as far into black culture as the conversation will go.

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  • So many people won't understand what you're going through at any given time. When social issues are happening, when the new Beyoncé album drops, when Kanye says something stupid, no one will talk about it and honestly, no one will care. Just get ready to call your girlfriends long distance to chat about it that night.

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  • Fortunately, I brought sand to the beach and came to the Bay Area as a married woman. I can see as an outsider that it's hard out here for my single friends. When you're a black girl, it's complicated to date outside your race. Some people just see you as being an exotic thrill, and many others aren't attracted to black girls at all. With a scarcity of black men, this all makes dating difficult.

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