Taylor Swift to Pen Love Column for Seventeen

Taylor Swift is adding advice columnist to her already extensive resume. For the December/January issue of Seventeen, the singer-songwriter dispenses her advice on how to grab your crush’s attention, how to steer clear of guys who are trouble and what are the signs your relationship needs to end. Check out some of her thoughts on love below before the issue hits stands on November 20th:

On what to do if you’re stuck in the friend zone:
“Remember that people have to fall in love with you because they want to, not because you want them to. The truth is, if you’re a girl and he’s a guy, he’s probably already considered you as an option and decided for whatever reason not to pursue it right now. Don’t chance ruining your friendship by chasing him before he’s ready. You just have to wait for him to turn it into something more, if and when he wants to.”

How to tell if he’s trouble:
“It sucks, but you can’t know for sure after just one date. All you can do is be honest and real with him as you get to know each other. Deciding not to play games is the best way to go because it keeps things simple: If he messes it up by playing around with your heart, you’ll know he doesn’t deserve you. You were real with him, and he didn’t return the courtesy. Someone else will!”

When is it time to tell a guy that your never ever getting back together?
“If you get into the habit of hiding your breakups and makeups from your friends and family because they roll their eyes at you, or no one can ever keep it straight if you guys are together or not…congratulations. You’re in an on-again, off-again relationship that’s gone on for way too long, and its time to end it for good!”