Valentine’s Day: Singles Vs. Couples

Debra Goldstein and Olivia Baniuszewicz are authors of the popular book, Flirtexting. The girls have teamed up with Bing to offer tips for planning the perfect Valentine's Day if you're single or if you're in a relationship… For more tips from Debra and Olivia or to purchase the book, visit or on your mobile phone.”

I’ve been both “single” and “in-a-relationship” before on February 14th and I’ve got to say, the most fun I can remember having on Valentine’s Day was when I was single…and I’m not just saying that because I’m the “single girl representative.”

Get rid of all those sad, sappy thoughts you have of what you expect “single girls” to be doing on Valentine’s Day. Contrary to popular belief, we do not sit at home on Feb. 14th writing in our journals about how depressed we are that we don’t have boyfriends, nor do we get all dolled up and attend “singles only” parties expecting to meet our Prince Charming…we do our fair share of flirtexting though!

Being single on Valentine’s Day allows you to appreciate what the meaning of this holiday is all about. With no pressure from anyone to plan something super romantic and over-the-top, you get to relax, enjoy a box of candy hearts, and spend time with the people who are always there for you – your friends. If you want to take the reigns to plan a fun single night out with the girls you can find fun activities wherever you are right from your cell phone using Oh and as a single girl for Valentine’s Day, you get to show yourself some extra special love that day…because why the heck not?

Here is what you should do if you are Single on Valentine’s Day:

1. Hit the gym…hard. Nothing makes me feel more rejuvenated and ready to take on the world than an amazing workout. So on Valentine’s Day, trade in your normal workout for an extra special one. I recently discovered Soul Cycle, and believe me when I tell you, it will change your life. Not only is it set to amazing music, taught by candle light, and helps you burn up to 850 calories, but it’s the kind of workout that will test your limits and bring you to a spiritual place you never expected would exist in a spin class. If spinning isn’t your thing, try a pole dancing lesson at S-Factor, or simply use your cell to find out what fun workout classes are offered in your area.

2. Buy yourself a present. There are no rules that say you can’t show yourself a little love on Valentine’s Day. Take yourself shopping and buy that new bag or dress you’ve been eyeing. always has the best selection of designer pieces that I can’t find anywhere else. Happy Valentine’s Day to me!

3. Send a hand written Valentine. Call me old fashion, but I still give hand written Valentine’s Day cards to my best friends, parents, sister, and grandparents. (Yes, I’m the person buying Valentine’s Day cards the day after New Years.) Listen, I co-wrote the book “Flirtexting”, so I’m normally all about sending a text or posting on someone’s Facebook page. However, now that technology has become the way in which we communicate, sending someone a hand written Valentine will go a long way and mean a lot. (It will definitely mean a lot more than that Valentine’s Day tweet you were going to send.)

4. Get a mani & pedi, massage, eat a nice dinner and catch up with your friends and family. Sometimes all it takes is doing something small, but special, on a day that you normally wouldn’t do it. Instead of your regular after work routine of popping in leftovers, catching up on emails and doing laundry, schedule a manicure and a massage, so that you’re polished and stress free for the rest of the week. Pick-up a nice dinner from your favorite restaurant on your way home or stop by your grandparents for a surprise visit. They will adore you for it!

5. Cocktails + Gossip Girl + Girlfriends + More Cocktails = Best Valentine’s Day Ever. The best Valentine’s Day I’ve ever had was the one I spent with 6 of my girlfriends in my shoebox apartment in NYC. We cooked dinner, sipped pink champagne, played board games, prank called ex-boyfriends, and laughed all night long. This Valentine’s Day happens to fall on a Monday, which means a new episode of Gossip Girl will be on. I honestly can’t think of a better way to spend Valentine’s Day than with 5 of your best friends watching the scandalous lives of Manhattans elite. Can you?


Ahh, Valentine's Day. If you're coupled up, like me, rarely does it pass without your notice. Each year I struggle to plan the perfect date night with my boyfriend, because let’s face it, the plans you make really convey how much you love and care for your partner, so it’s important to get it right! Whether you're dating, newly engaged or married for some time, you can undoubtedly feel a great amount of pressure to plan “something”. That “something” doesn’t need to be a whole shebang of fireworks on top of the Eiffel Tower, but rather a tender gesture of breakfast in bed or making a mix CD for your love. Putting a little thought into what makes one another happy is what it’s all about. Now, if you're anything like me, I advise you skip Paris, the tattoo-hearted-bears, and satin-covered boxes of Godiva (though I love them), and instead pour some thought, heart and creativity into planning a fun and unique day for your significant other. Most recently, I’ve discovered a great resource on my phone – from finding the hottest local restaurants, to looking up directions (since guys will never admit that they’re lost!), can cover it all if you are coupled up.

No matter what type of couple you are, the “celebratory” or “non-celebratory” kind, here are some out-of-the-ordinary and inexpensive tips for planning your perfect Valentine’s Day:

1. Set up a Treasure Hunt. Leave clues behind either in the house or in your neighborhood with things that he’ll need once he finds you, like a tube of chapstick, a phonkerchief, massage oil, etc. This is a fun way to keep your significant other on his toes and your date plans a surprise. Make the clues challenging so that he has to work hard to find you.

2. Create a “Kissing Checklist”. This list should show all the places in the world you'd like to kiss your lover and then start by fulfilling a couple that night. It can be anything from a makeout sesh in a downpour of rain, to a kiss in the middle of a crowded dance floor or even in a dressing room. Make the places fun and out of the ordinary.

3. Stay-in together! I will be turning off all electronics for the night (i.e. blackberries, TV's, computers) and putting on an Ipod playlist that I made for my boyfriend. We will cook a meal together and just enjoy “us” time. Tip: Check out’s Music page to get the scoop on hot indie rock bands to download for your mix. I’m adding “The National” and “Arcade Fire” to my mix.

4. Give back together. Volunteer at a local soup kitchen or offer to babysit for a couple who needs a night out more than you both. You’ll both feel great about doing something good for others and it will strengthen your bond. After all, couples who volunteer together, stay together!

5. Date in a box. If you’re going to be apart on Valentine’s Day, put together a care package filled with your love’s favorite things and instructions. Such as, “Put on this playlist, pour yourself a glass of champagne and get on Video Chat with me” or “Happy Valentine’s Day. Wait for a surprise!” and have his favorite dessert delivered to his house. It’ll be a fun experience for you both.