LIFESTYLE
Our Best Advice For Genuinely Accepting
An Apology
By AMANDA CHATEL
Be Honest About Feelings
It’s worth taking the time to be honest with yourself in how you feel about what happened if someone is able to apologize sincerely for what they’ve done to you. You’re allowed to take as long as you need to process this apology, and only an apology that has been processed can be genuinely accepted.
Be Mature About It
If someone can take accountability for having wronged you, the worst thing is to act out in an immature way, even if you’re still bitter and angry. According to psychology professor Karina Schumann, “The other person will just get defensive and put up a wall, and you’ll get even more upset.”
Say These Three Words
If you feel that the apology is truly genuine and you are able to forgive without any strings attached to the apology, say the words: “I forgive you.” It will make you feel vulnerable, but there’s power in true forgiveness. It shows you’re able to take the high road despite the pain.
Be Sincere
According to the Mayo Clinic, being able to forgive is one of the healthiest things you can do for your mind and body. You may have lower blood pressure, less anger, depression, and anxiety, better heart health, and your immune system will get a healthy boost.
Move Forward With Grace
Remember that just because you’ve forgiven someone, it doesn’t mean that what happened magically disappears. It’s what you do with that part of your past that matters. It’s up to you and what you think is best for your mental health as to whether or not you want to keep that person in your life.