RELATIONSHIPS
Our Best Tips For Coming Out To Your Partner As Bisexual
By AMANDA CHATEL
Make Sure
When you tell your partner that you’re bisexual, you want to make sure that you know it for a fact. If you are unsure, it is best not to use your partner as a sounding board to help you figure it out as experts suggest therapy is the best way to explore these feelings.
Be Honest
When you finally tell your partner, don't tiptoe around the topic and add a bunch of colorful wording that's steeped in hesitation. Simply say, "I'm bisexual." If you say, "I think I'm bisexual," then you haven't done the work to confirm that you are, and it puts both you and your partner in an uncomfortable situation.
Expect Questions
Your partner is going to have a lot of questions and feelings, so give them the space to inquire and discuss their emotions. They may immediately assume that you're looking to open up the relationship so you can explore, but if that's not the case and the decision to tell them was to be your authentic self, then make sure they know that.
Thoroughly Discuss It
Once you tell your partner it’s important to discuss how this will impact your relationship. Perhaps you’ll both want to open the relationship, or maybe nothing will change at all, but it is essential that you are both on the same page.
Embrace It
No matter how your partner responds, embrace the fact that you honored your true self. As LGBTQ+ educator and advocate Angel Gravely explains, “The most important thing to remember when it comes to defining bisexuality is that there is more than one accurate definition [...] and more than one valid way of experiencing attraction."