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What Is Outercourse?
By ANNIE JOHNSTON
Intercouse Isn’t Everything
Because of the way society views sex, for many women in heterosexual relationships, saying they don’t actually enjoy intercourse can bring on feelings of embarrassment or shame. This highlights just how important communication is to sexual wellness.
Is It The Same As Abstinence?
Abstinence means different things to different people — some define it as refraining from all sexual activity, while others only avoid penetrative sex. Exploring outercourse simply means that all sexual activity doesn't need to end with penetration.
Outercourse vs. Foreplay
While outercourse includes all of the same activities as foreplay, the outcome isn’t the same. Foreplay is preparing for the act of sex, while outercourse is the act of sex; it also releases oxytocin, serotonin, and dopamine, as well as increases the chance of reaching climax.
Orgasms Will Vary
Female orgasms can be difficult to classify, and can vary depending on our moods, surroundings, and what induced the climax. According to sex therapist Stefani Threadgill, “Women need stimulation, focus, and a relaxed state in order to orgasm.”
Psychology Plays A Role
Psychology can help us understand why outercourse is often more effective for women than penetration is. Outercourse involves building a sense of honesty and communication, which are generally driving forces in the psychology of women’s sexual nature.