A Day In The Life Of A Surrogate Mother: ‘How Can You Not Be Attached?’ (Video)
Jazmin is expecting…but she’s having another couple’s baby. As a surrogate mother, she is dedicated to giving families the children they want but can’t have on their own. Surrogacy is a method of assisted reproduction that helps intended parents start families when they otherwise could not, and with gestational surrogacy, specifically, the woman carrying is not biologically related to the child.
“The most often thing I hear is, ‘How can you not be attached? How can you have this child in you for nine months, feel it kick, feel it move, and not feel some type of attachment?’” says Jazmin. “The best answer that I can give you is that when you have two people making, you know, life plans for this child that you’re carrying, it’s kind of impossible to think that, oh, this is mine.”
There are many reasons couples seek out surrogates, and statistics show that surrogacy is on the rise. With that comes a lot of misinformation and myths. “The biggest misconception is that it’s easy money,” she says, “I think that’s what burns us the most… It has nothing to do with the money. We are educated, big-hearted women who want the opportunity to give someone else the gift that we have been blessed.”
Surrogates go through a rigorous psychological, physical, and fiscal screening processes recommended by the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, and in most cases, they tend to have financially stable families and biological children of their own. Jazmin has two daughters with her “wonderful” husband.
Listen in as Jazmin takes you through the emotional journey of surrogacy, from her pregnancy to the birth of beautiful Astrid, and talks about all the bumps along the way. “Obviously, it’s not my child, but you go through it physically, you go through it emotionally,” she says.