'It Takes All Of Us': Christina Haack's Secret To Co-Parenting With Exes Is Simpler Than You Think

Christina Haack has achieved something that many divorced families find impossible: a friendly co-parenting relationship. This is even more impressive because she has three kids with two ex-husbands and still finds a way to make it work. The secret, according to her, is that the children come before everything — including painful pasts. Christina Haack's exes have spilled a lot of messy tea about her, which shows that they didn't always have healthy co-parenting relationships.

She and Tarek El Moussa, the father of her two oldest kids, famously had a messy divorce in 2018, and her second ex-husband Ant Anstead even attempted to get full custody of their child while shading her parenting style in 2022. Speaking to People in 2025, Haack shared how she was able to get from that point to healthy co-parenting with both men. "It takes all of us, and right now there's four people in this situation — myself, my boyfriend Chris, Tarek and Heather — and all of us want to get along," she told the outlet. "I have people message me all the time to be like, 'How did you do that? My husband's ex hates me,' or 'I could never hang out with my ex.'"

Christina Haack also echoed a sentiment many celebs who have co-parenting down to a science believe: Despite their feelings about one another, the adults should work together for the sake of the children. "I think my kids love that they know anyone can come over ... and we could do parties together," she said. "So it's nice for the kids. It's not weird at all. It's wonderful." But while she always puts the kids first, Haack also revealed that she's been on a different co-parenting journey with both of her exes.

In Christina Haack's opinion, one reason she and Tarek El Moussa co-parent so well is because of their shared ability to easily let go of past grievances. "I'm really good at letting go of the past, so is Tarek," she told People. "We can be over something in literally like .5 seconds and never want to talk about it again. So I think it's just a maturity level and us putting the kids first and then the rest is kind of easy."

In Tarek's opinion, however, successful co-parenting has a lot to do with taking responsibility. "If someone's not having a great time co-parenting, they need to accept responsibility and make changes in order to make that co-parenting more productive and successful," he said during a 2025 HGTV interview with Haack and Heather Rae El Moussa (via HGTV).

One undeniable fact is that Christina Haack and Heather Rae El Moussa's BFF relationship adds a positive note to their co-parenting relationship. During their interview, Haack revealed that it was easy to co-parent with Heather because she focused on the positives. "I'd much rather have a stepmom who cares about my kids [...] than someone who's selfish and who I don't like[...] It would be selfish for me to not want that."

Right after their divorce in 2020, Christina Haack and Ant Anstead remained on pretty bad terms and focused on parallel co-parenting, which thrives when divorced parents disengage from each other. This continued through their custody battle and even into her marriage with her third husband, Josh Hall. Haack told Us Weekly that one reason she had a strained relationship with Anstead was that she feared how Hall would react to their interactions.

However, after the third divorce, which was finalized in 2025, Haack told People that Anstead took the first step toward mending their relationship. She revealed that he wanted them to co-parent effectively, the way she was doing with Tarek and Heather Rae El Moussa. 

To co-parent effectively, Haack also made an effort to be friendly with Anstead's partner, actor Renée Zellweger. While she admitted that her relationship with Zellweger isn't like her friendship with Heather Rae El Moussa, she told Us Weekly that their few interactions had been positive. "It's mostly just on the soccer field or at drop-off, but she's super nice. She loves Hudson, and Hudson loves her. And she and Ant are happy."