'Wildflowering' Is The Dating Trend For The Type B Ladies

Keeping up with dating trends can be more exhausting than a date that lasts until 3 a.m. In case you missed it, there's a new term to know when it comes to modern dating slang, and it's "wildflowering." The idea behind the trend, coined in 2025 by Bumble sexologist Chantelle Otten in an interview with Stylist, is that a relationship unfolds naturally (like a field of wildflowers, hence the name), with no titles, time constraints, rules, or expectations on it. 

This laid-back style of dating might jive well with a type-B personality, who generally prefers things to be more fluid rather than rigidly defined. But according to our expert, celebrity love coach Nicole Moore, it can also be a boon for the type-A folks out there. "One of the biggest pros of the 'wildflowering' trend is that it can help daters who tend to be control freaks learn to stay in the moment and be present on dates," Moore tells Glam in our exclusive interview. "Sometimes if you're not putting pressure on a romantic encounter to lead to a serious relationship, it's easier to show up as your true self." That jives with clear-coding, another dating trend that demands honesty.

"If you're someone who tends to over-analyze your dating life, compare every date to a checklist, or fantasize about a future with someone way too early, 'wildflowering' can help you learn to pay attention to true signs of compatibility rather than rushing into a relationship," Moore explains, and that applies whether you're a by-the-book A or a freewheeling B.

While the "wildflowering" dating trend might initially sound like a great idea for those of us who begin to daydream about wedding venues after the first date, love coach Nicole Moore advises proceeding with caution. She says commitment-phobes might use it as an excuse to avoid taking the next step in a relationship. "For those with low dating self-esteem, who tend to accept crumbs in dating, 'wildflowering' is risky because it makes it hard to discern whether a relationship isn't progressing because the other person has commitment issues or if the relationship is taking a natural course toward something more serious," Moore exclusively shares with Glam.

Overall, she would not advise it as a dating approach for most people, especially those with less secure attachment styles. (Here's what you should know about attachment styles in a relationship and how the laid-back "wildflowering" style might not work well with many of them.) People with an anxious attachment style might not find it enjoyable to be involved in a situation without labels or a clear direction, while those who are more avoidant could use the lack of structure to feed their fears.

Many people need structure to feel safe in a relationship, even in the early stages. But if you have a secure attachment style, which is ideal to have in a relationship, then this trend may be for you. "The people most likely to get any real benefit out of 'wildflowering' are the ones less likely to get triggered by dating in the first place, those with secure attachment," Moore concludes.