Here's Why You Should Try Dating Your Astrological Sister Sign

They say opposites attract –– but how different is too different? According to all of the best relationship and sex experts, it's actually really healthy to date someone who is a little different than you. "Many important aspects of relationships, especially personality traits, needs, and preferences are a much better fit when they are opposite or complementary, rather than similar," licensed clinical psychologist Joseph Cilona, PsyD, tells Women's Health. As Cilona explains it, people become attracted to their opposite because they possess key qualities that you might feel you lack in yourself or admire about them. It can also feel exciting to find someone who seems to have everything you didn't know you were looking for in a partner. And in astrology, there's a name for these cosmic connections between star–crossed lovers: sister signs.

Don't be surprised if you find yourself both intimidated and infatuated by your sister sign. In every way you can imagine, this sign will have similar traits and quirks that you might find yourself drawn to. "In my experience as an astrologer, I've noticed that the sister sign that enters your life is going to be the person who teaches you the most about yourself," astrologer Amy Astro shares in a TikTok. As Amy explains it in her video, you can think of your sister sign as being the yin to your yang. Looking at your sister sign can give you a lot of knowledge about what you admire about yourself, as well as what you look for in other people.

What are the sister signs in astrology?

In astrology, sister signs represent two sides of the same coin. Each pair of sister signs sit opposite each other in the zodiac wheel and represent two ends of the same extreme. This aspect, known as an opposition, describes the way in which you and your sister sign communicate with and relate to one another (via The Astrology Podcast). Because these two signs are sitting physically as far away from each other as possible, it would seem as though they couldn't be more different from one another. You might think this makes for tension and disdain; it could actually be the start of an opposites attract relationship. These polar opposite pairings are said to make great couples that balance each other out.

The sister signs both have a lot to learn from each other, which is what keeps them coming back to each other time and time again. For those in need of a refresher, there are six pairs of sister signs in astrology: Aries and Libra, Taurus and Scorpio, Gemini and Sagittarius, Cancer and Capricorn, Leo and Aquarius, and Virgo and Pisces. They each look to each other for completion and balance, trading off who will lead and who will follow. "I usually find that zodiac compatibility will always play out in a way where we partner with people who are here to teach us something about ourselves," astrologer and author Mecca Woods tells TZR. In a way, your sister sign acts both as a bit of a friendly rival and a source of inspiration.

How are sister signs similar and different?

In astrology, your sister sign will have a complimentary element to your own sign (water x earth; fire x air), which causes your initial attraction. However, they will also share your exact modality (cardinal; fixed; mutable), which is what causes the pair of you to butt heads (via Cafe Astrology). Essentially, your sister shares your perspective and values in life but has a completely different approach on how to achieve their goals. For example, both Aries and Libra have cardinal sign energy, which makes them natural leaders. However, Aries is known to charge ahead and lead with charisma, while Libra prefers to play the diplomat. This is just one example of how sister signs embody similar qualities but express them in a different way.

These differing world views are the source of a few power struggles between sister signs, yes, but they can also be the source of personal growth. "Astrologers often say that the remedy for any sign's neurosis is the enlightened qualities of the opposite sign," astrologer Juliana McCarthy previously told Well+Good. In fact, the early stages of meeting your sister sign are often the most tumultuous, considering they act as a mirror to your own insecurities. Still, if each partner within a sister sign relationship can embrace the other's differences –– it can open up a refreshing and interesting new perspective on life. Something truly magical happens when these opposing forces find common ground and commit to learning from one another.

What to know about dating your sister sign

Because astrological compatibility is so much more than your sun sign, you'll want to look at your full birth chart for potential sister sign matches with your new boo. Experts agree that sister sign compatibility in your sun sign is good, but finding these connections in your shared synastry chart will really turn up the heat. "Without factoring in all of these key components, trying to calculate real astrological compatibility is almost pointless," astrologer Stephanie Powell tells POPSUGAR, adding that you should always look at Venus and Mars for synastry. "When one person's Venus syncs with their partner's Mars in a conjunction or trine, sparks can fly — especially in the bedroom," Powell adds.

Each of the sister sign zodiac pairings will have a natural attraction to each other, likely because they know how to push your buttons and light your fire. As astrologer Leisa Schaim explains on Twitter, romantic synastry between the signs can show you the type of connection you and another person may have together, but it doesn't dictate people's decisions or actions. That means you'll need to make the active choice to try and see eye to eye with your sister sign to make things last. Working together, the sister sign pairings can expand their skill sets and learn how to grow and evolve beyond their current stage in life, so long as you both put in the effort to create a beautiful life together.