50 Of The Best Responses When You've Been Ghosted
No one wants to get ghosted. In the world of modern dating, though, this immature action has become incredibly common. From the perspective of many ghosters, it feels easier to end conversations with stark silence rather than take time to explain why they've lost interest. Ghosters also often believe they'll get off scot-free by avoiding uncomfortable conversations that could lead to confrontations.
At the end of the day, the most important thing to remember is that you shouldn't take it personally if someone decides to ghost you. The act of ghosting says more about the person doing it than the person it's happening to. Even if you're at an emotionally mature place with a solid head on your shoulders, the person you've been texting with might not quite be there yet.
Keep in mind that ghosters don't always understand how much of a negative impact their silence can have on others. One of the best ways to handle getting ghosted is to send a message to the ghoster — and if you're in this unfortunate situation right now, here are a few responses you might consider sending their way.
Hey, are you still alive?
When you send a text that says, "Hey, are you still alive?" it lets the other person know that you're a bit worried about them while maintaining a sense of humor. This message sheds light on the fact that their silence is enough to make you wonder whether or not they died!
Your new nickname is Casper.
Casper is known for being one of the friendliest fictional ghosts of all time. The person you're texting isn't being very friendly since they haven't been responsive, which means they don't technically have very much in common with Casper. Still, this is a great text to showcase your light sense of humor.
You should be cast in the next 'Ghostbusters' movie.
"Ghostbusters" movies have been around for decades, with the first version premiering in 1984, followed by its 2016 reboot. Sending a text encouraging your person of interest to audition for the next "Ghostbusters" movie lets them know you've noticed their lack of responsiveness, but you're still willing to laugh it off.
Is everything alright? Haven't heard from you.
You can take a more serious approach with your ghoster by shooting them a text that says, "Is everything alright? Haven't heard from you." This message is ideal if you're the type of person who's super empathetic toward others. It's possible your ghoster is going through something that's been making it difficult for them to respond.
Noah wrote 365 letters to Allie in 'The Notebook,' I think you can shoot a quick text back.
What's better than a reference from "The Notebook"? Send a text that says, "Noah wrote 365 letters to Allie in "The Notebook," I think you can shoot a quick text back" to get your point across. Others have jumped through some serious hoops to maintain communication, which means the person who's ghosting can do the same.
I'm guessing it's time I delete your number?
You can send a text that says, "I'm guessing it's time I delete your number?" if you're comfortable being a straight shooter. If the person you're talking to has any interest in you, this message will jolt them into action by making them realize it's time to get a little more communicative.
Your new nickname is Danny Phantom.
"Danny Phantom" is a TV show about one of the most likable fictional superheroes with ghost powers. You probably don't think the person ghosting you is likable since they haven't been texting you back! Regardless, you can send them a text comparing them to Danny Phantom to keep things super lighthearted.
It's been a minute. Are there any new updates?
It's perfectly fine to take an inquisitive approach with your ghoster. Send them a text that says, "It's been a minute. Are there any new updates?" to give them a nudge. This message lets them know you're still curious about what they've got going on, even though you haven't heard from them in some time. Showing you're still curious might even pull a response out of them.
You busy writing the manuscript for the 8th 'Harry Potter' novel?
Diehard "Harry Potter" fans are fully aware that the 7th novel from the franchise was the final ending. "You busy writing the manuscript for the 8th "Harry Potter" novel?" is a fun way to poke fun at your ghoster. Since the books are known for being so lengthy, this is an easy joke to laugh at.
I'm a little worried about you. Please let me know you're okay.
Your compassionate side will be on display if you send a text that says, "I'm a little worried about you. Please let me know you're okay." Being a compassionate person is a beautiful thing, and it's not something you should abandon simply because someone's being rude and unresponsive while communicating with you.
Just wondering if your thumbs are broken?
Thumbs are generally needed to construct texts on any typical smartphone. When you ask your ghoster if their thumbs are broken, it shows your humorous side in a significant way. This is a great message to send if you don't mind coming across as a little more aggressive and outspoken.
If this is your communication style, I'm two seconds from losing all interest.
You might be at your wits end with your ghoster because they haven't responded. Sending a text that says, "If this is your communication style, I'm two seconds from losing all interest," lets them know they need to step up ASAP, or they'll lose their chance with you.
Call me Sue Storm, because I'm feeling invisible
Sue Storm, AKA the Invisible Woman, is a character from Marvel's "Fantastic Four." Most notably, she was played by Jessica Alba in the early 2000s. Comparing yourself to Sue Storm is a humorous route to take since you're probably feeling a tad invisible to your person of interest.
I was excited about getting to know you ... until now.
It's wonderful to wear your heart on your sleeve if that's something you feel secure with. When you let your person of interest know you're feeling disappointed about how things are going, you give them a chance to either confirm the negative reality or prove you wrong.
I'm expecting a 50-page essay from you based on how long you have me waiting.
Taking a silly approach with your ghoster is a smart route to take based on prior interactions you've had with them. If you think they'd laugh at receiving a text that says, "I'm expecting a 50-page essay from you based on how long you have me waiting," this is exactly what you should send.
Put yourself in other people's shoes before being a rude person.
Sometimes, the best thing you can do is remind someone else of how detrimental their actions are. Often, ghosters forget about putting themselves in other people's shoes before doing what they believe is the easiest thing. Sending this text sheds light on how rude they're actually being.
Please remember how real karma can be.
Many people don't take karma seriously. Those who believe in karma are aware that whatever goes around comes back around. This means that if you mistreat someone, you'll be mistreated by someone else in the future — a great reminder to send folks who think it's no big deal to ghost others.
I'm guessing you dropped your phone in the Pacific Ocean after sending your last text.
There's no harm in showing off a more sarcastic side of yourself while dealing with a ghoster. You can send a playful message that says, "I'm guessing you dropped your phone in the Pacific Ocean after sending your last text." It's obvious that the scenario you're describing is way too outlandish to be real.
It literally takes two seconds to send a text.
The truth of the matter is that it quite literally only takes about two seconds to send a text. Some people claim to avoid conversing with others because they find communicating via text time-consuming. These are the people who need to be reminded that sending a text only takes a few seconds.
I find it so charming when you disappear without warning [heart eyes emoji].
There's nothing charming about someone who ghosts other people, but you can get creative with your sarcasm by typing out a message that touches on that. Send a text that says, "I find it so charming when you disappear without warning [heart eyes emoji]." Be sure not to forget the emoji since that's the cherry on top of this one.
It would've been better if you just said you were no longer interested.
Ghosters think they're doing both parties a favor by disappearing. They're hoping to avoid confrontation by halting the dialogue between you. You can let them know that it would've actually been a lot better if they simply explained to you that they lost interest instead of going ghost.
Did you faint from the excitement of receiving my last text?
Have fun with the situation if you're able to. Shooting over a text that says, "Did you faint from the excitement of receiving my last text?" allows you to re-open the door of communication with your ghoster. This will only work if they can catch onto your sense of humor and play off of your energy properly.
Sometimes the trash takes itself out
When you're over it, you're over it. At that point, sending a text that's a little more spiteful and short is fine. If you send a message that says, "Sometimes the trash takes itself out," just be aware that you'll probably never hear from the other person again. After all, you just compared them to trash!
Did your phone fall into an erupting volcano after you sent your last message?
Sending a message that says, "Did your phone fall into an erupting volcano after you sent your last message?" is perfect if you're hoping to laugh things off with your person of interest while maintaining dialogue. There's no way they won't be able to respect your level of humor (even while you're understandably irritated).
Thanks for saving me from wasting any more of my time on you.
No one wants to be considered a time-waster in someone else's life. Sending a message that says, "Thanks for saving me from wasting any more of my time on you," hammers the nail into the coffin. You're making it abundantly clear that this person has already wasted your valuable time, and they won't be able to continue doing so.
I'm praying you didn't fall into a coma, but that's an easy assumption to make right now.
It would be equally playful of you to send a message that says, "I'm praying you didn't fall into a coma, but that's an easy assumption to make right now." This message lets them know that you're concerned for their well-being to the point of making dramatic assumptions about what's going on.
I'm sincerely hoping you aren't this immature with every person you meet.
Calling someone out for being immature isn't a fabulous idea if you want to rekindle things with them. If you're happy to burn the bridge, though, you can send a message letting them know how immature you think they are with their lack of responsiveness. You take it one step further by mentioning that you hope they don't use the same negative patterns with everyone else they talk to.
Your responses are wayyy too speedy. Slow your roll so I can keep up.
Another text you can send if you're willing to take a playful approach with your ghoster would be, "Your responses are wayyy too speedy. Slow your roll so I can keep up." Obviously, their text messages aren't coming your way at all. Still, your sarcasm will be easy to laugh at.
I'm not wearing Harry Potter's Invisibility Cloak, but it sure feels like it.
Anyone who's seen the "Harry Potter" movie franchise remembers when Harry got his hands on an Invisibility Cloak. Once he had that cloak, he could slink around Hogwarts Castle to achieve different things and learn gems of knowledge. Since you're being ghosted, it probably feels like you're just as invisible as Harry was while wearing that cloak.
I'd appreciate it if we could talk for a couple of minutes.
Sending a message that says, "I'd appreciate it if we could talk for a couple of minutes," rolls the ball into the other person's court. They may agree by texting you back or hopping on a call with you. Or, they might continue ignoring your messages because they simply aren't interested in a romantic relationship. Nevertheless, put yourself out there if you're seeking closure.
The math ain't mathing on your lack of communication.
Thanks to TikTok, new phrases are constantly surfacing. The latest lingo? "The math ain't mathing." This is the perfect phrase when you're faced with something super weird or confusing, and is an ideal text to send someone who's in the know about modern social media culture.
Would you prefer to hop on a quick phone call?
Since the person you've been texting hasn't sent you anything back via text, it might be a better idea to suggest a phone call. It's possible they're an old-fashioned type of person who simply prefers talking out loud more than sending emotionless texts through a screen. You can offer this up as an idea and see where things go.
Thanks to your recent social media posts, I can rest easy knowing you're still alive.
Tread lightly before sending a text that says, "Thanks to your recent social media posts, I can rest easy knowing you're still alive." Although this message makes it clear that you have a great sense of humor, you don't want your person of interest to think you've been stalking them on different social media platforms.
It might be difficult for me to drop you without a little closure.
Brutal honesty makes some people uncomfortable, but it's okay to address those needs if you wholeheartedly need closure from the person who's ghosted you. Send a message saying, "It might be difficult for me to drop you without a little closure." If they have a heart at all, they should be willing to respond.
Maybe you deleted our text thread ... allow me to reintroduce myself.
How interested are you in this person? Are you willing to put all ego aside to get past the phase of them ghosting you? If so, you might want to send a message that says, "Maybe you deleted our text thread ... allow me to reintroduce myself." This gives you both a chance to start over on a clean slate.
Would you mind letting me know what happened?
There's no harm in sending a text asking, "Would you mind letting me know what happened?" if you're hoping for a little clarity about where things went wrong. You'll get your answers if they're comfortable being honest with you about why they lost interest.
The longer you take to reply, the longer you delay our wedding plans.
Are you the type of person who loves being more of an aggressor in your romantic pursuits? If so, you can send a message that says, "The longer you take to reply, the longer you delay our wedding plans." It's silly, but it also shows that you would've been excited to take the relationship seriously if they allowed it to blossom.
Your lack of maturity is a turnoff.
You might already be completely turned off by the person ghosting you because you know you deserve better. If you're past that point of rekindling things, send a text that says, "Your lack of maturity is a turnoff." They should know how unattractive their behavior is, after all.
Did your phone get stolen? If not, I kind of wish it would [shrug emoji].
It's possible that you're feeling super annoyed by the behaviors of your ghoster. Send a message that says, "Did your phone get stolen? If not, I kind of wish it would [shrug emoji]" to get that point across. Don't forget about the shrug emoji since it showcases a more nonchalant mentality.
This is the most anticlimactic ending ever.
You've probably experienced a handful of relationships that have crumbled in explosive or passionate ways. This time around, though, things are ending in a very boring way. Shoot them a text that says, "This is the most anticlimactic ending ever." This lets them know that you were hoping for something exciting, but you're left with nothing but disappointment.
You've proven yourself to be one of the most boring people I've ever texted.
No one wants to be told they're boring. If you're in the mood to hurt your ghoster's feelings, you can send a message that says, "You've proven yourself to be one of the most boring people I've ever texted." It would be completely honest of you since "boring" is the best way to describe an unresponsive individual.
Your silence speaks volumes, and I'm hearing you loud and clear.
Silence definitely speaks volumes. When someone gives you no answer, they most certainly give you the clearest answer. Shoot over a message that says, "Your silence speaks volumes, and I'm hearing you loud and clear." This lets them know you're aware that things are over.
I start losing interest when communication starts sucking, and that's where I'm at with you now.
If you think your ghoster might still be interested in pursuing things with you, you can send them a bit of a threat by saying, "I start losing interest when communication starts sucking, and that's where I'm at with you now." If they actually care about seeing things through, they'll beef up their communication style immediately.
I tried to be patient, but that's over now and I'm done.
There's nothing wrong with setting your boundaries. When you realize you're done harboring patience for someone disrespecting you, it's your prerogative to let them know where you stand. You might've been patient with them initially, but patience doesn't last forever.
Ghosting people is the new norm, and you're clearly part of that cliché.
Explaining to someone that they fit into general clichés lets them know there isn't anything special or unique about them. When you tell someone, "Ghosting people is the new norm, and you're clearly part of that cliché," they'll be reminded of how basic and average they are.
I'm not a mind reader. You can tell me if you're over it.
It's delusional for anyone you meet to assume you'll be able to read their mind. For this reason, it makes perfect sense to send a message saying, "I'm not a mind reader. You can tell me if you're over it." They might've assumed you got the point after they stopped texting you, but this message lets them know they need to provide some context.
I'm done waiting to hear back. I wish you the best.
The waiting game can feel endless while hoping to hear back from someone who's ghosted you. You can bring yourself some necessary closure by sending a text that says, "I'm done waiting to hear back. I wish you the best." This way, you close the door of communication in a way that gives you back your power.
We've been talking for a while. I deserve a goodbye.
Depending on how long you've been talking to your ghoster, calling them out for their behavior is perfectly valid. You can do this by sending a message that says, "We've been talking for a while. I deserve a goodbye." At the very least, you deserve a goodbye from someone you've invested time and energy into.
I'll cut things off between us since you didn't have the decency to do it yourself.
You make it abundantly clear that you're the more emotionally mature party involved when you send a text that says, "I'll cut things off between us since you didn't have the decency to do it yourself." This message proves that you're willing to step up to the plate to end things since they couldn't deal with any confrontation.
Nothing.
There's a lot of power in going no contact. Keep in mind that some ghosters love feeling like they're being chased because they thrive on mind games. Some even revel in the fact that you'd be willing to double or triple-text them. When you remove yourself from the equation by ghosting them right back, you remain more powerful than any words would achieve.