You Probably Aren't Focusing On Your Partner's Love Language Enough. Here's How To Change That

If you've been feeling distant from your partner lately, it may be a result of a lack of effort on your part. Perhaps, you've aren't focusing on your partner's love language enough and it's creating a rift in your relationship. This isn't to say it's intentional, but it does happen and can cause your partner to feel less loved or cared for. In order to fix this issue, the first step is understanding what their love language is. It's actually possible your partner has more than one, according to Forbes.


It's worth noting that a person's love language can change over time, so it's a good idea to check in with your partner every once in a while to see if they feel differently. For instance, maybe their love language was receiving gifts when you first met, but since then, they've realized they want to prioritize quality time and physical touch instead. With that being said, if you want to repair that rift in your relationship, there are a couple of ways to ensure you're focusing on your partner's love language.

Understand how to speak their love language

Think about it: How can you focus your attention on your partner's love language when you have no idea what it is? The answer is you can't. So this is the first step. By having an open conversation, you come to understand how they give and receive love. Then you can adjust your actions to ensure their needs are acknowledged.


Maybe they can't stand physical touch but love when a partner performs acts of service. Encourage them to open up about it to you in an honest discussion, rather than making assumptions about what they need. It's important they know they won't be judged by how they'd like to receive love. You may not have the same love language, and that's okay! You don't have to share the same needs as one another. In fact, possessing a different language is completely normal. What's important is you have a clear understanding of how they prefer to receive love.

Spend less time focusing on your own needs

In order to focus on your partner's love language, you have to spend less time prioritizing your own needs. Understanding what you want from your partner isn't a bad thing — it's human nature. We want to feel loved just as much as our partner does. However, there's a difference between expressing your needs and focusing all of your attention onto your needs alone. By ignoring your partner's love language, you're giving off the impression their needs aren't as important, which can create a rift.


If your partner's love language is receiving gifts, that doesn't mean you need to spend a lot of money, which is a major misconception among couples, HuffPost explains. Many people assume that person is materialistic, which couldn't be further from the truth. The idea is that you focus on your partner's wants and desires. Say your partner really wants a massage but can't afford it. This is the time for you to step in and treat them. Set up an appointment and surprise your partner. This shows you've been paying attention, making them feel loved and cared for.