The Biggest Red Flag In Kristi Noem's Marriage, According To Our Relationship Coach

Kristi Noem's marriage is often in the headlines, and rarely for heartwarming reasons. Since 2021, rumors of an affair between the former governor and longtime associate Corey Lewandowski have refused to die down. Meanwhile, her husband, Bryon Noem, hasn't publicly supported her denials, making her statements feel more like a personal attempt to save face than a shared stance. It's no surprise that the internet's consensus seems to be that the Noems' marriage is riddled with red flags. However, marriage is complex, and it takes more than likes and hot takes to understand one. That's why we turned to an expert for unbiased insight.

Glam spoke exclusively with relationship coach Anthony Recenello, a YouTube-famous dating and relationship coach and TV host with two decades of experience helping people decode the dynamics of love. He explains that although rumors of the affair between Kristi and Corey remain unproven, they are far from harmless. "The biggest red flag is often the erosion of trust — whether due to actual events or persistent rumors," says Recenello, who offers a free 15-minute class on his website. "For Kristi Noem and her husband, the challenge is twofold: navigating the emotional impact of these allegations and maintaining a sense of partnership amid intense public scrutiny."

Unfortunately, these rumors are nearly impossible to escape. The Daily Mail even published photos of him allegedly leaving her complex (which sits just across from his own) with a duffel bag in tow. Could it all be totally innocent? Possibly. But the public already seems to have taken sides. Thankfully, Recenello explains that their problems aren't necessarily relationship issues that can't be fixed. He also shares a few tips that could help the Noems rebuild their bond if they're willing to do the work.

Everyone knows that communication is a great tool to have and hone in marriages, but relationship coach Anthony Recenello believes it's non-negotiable if Kristi and Bryon Noem want to stay together. "To make it long term, the couple would need to prioritize radical honesty and open communication," he says. "They should create a safe space to discuss not just the rumors, but also the emotional toll of public life." While conversations like these can be difficult, one simple way to improve communication in a relationship is by listening without judgment and refusing to make assumptions — two habits that could go a long way for the Noems.

Recenello also emphasizes the need to reaffirm their commitment to each other, both privately and publicly. Private reaffirmations help rebuild emotional intimacy, while public ones show unity, something their marriage currently seems to lack.

Above all, Recenello stresses the importance of getting professional help. "Seeking professional support, like couples counseling, can also help them process these challenges in a healthy, constructive way," he explains. The first step is understanding the different types of marriage counseling and then picking a therapist who fits their needs. Recenello believes that this will help them preserve their trust and emotional safety. "If they can nurture those qualities despite external pressures, they'll give themselves the best chance at long-term success."