The Biggest Red Flags In Tulsi Gabbard's Relationship

All the attention might be on Tulsi Gabbard's role as the Director of National Intelligence, but her personal life has some pretty interesting deets of its own. When Gabbard first met her husband Abraham Williams in 2012, it wasn't the most traditional setup, nor was their age gap exactly typical. Williams was seven years younger, and his mother happened to be working on Gabbard's congressional campaign. After her victory, he made his move and asked her out. And while their age gap stirred a bit of buzz, it's hard to ignore that Tulsi Gabbard still looks stunning makeup-free today, so it's not difficult to imagine the impression she left a decade ago.

By 2015, they were married, and everything seemed picture-perfect. Still, like most public figures, their relationship hasn't been entirely free from speculation. Now, to be fair, nothing has been confirmed, and speculation only gets you so far. That's why Glam exclusively reached out to Susan Trombetti, professional matchmaker and CEO of Exclusive Matchmaking, to weigh in on the rumors. Trombetti acknowledges that much of the chatter about Tulsi Gabbard and Abraham Williams' marriage is classic internet gossip, but she doesn't dismiss it entirely: "I say where there is smoke, there's fire, though." 

One common talking point is the couple's origin story and the fact that Williams was younger and volunteering under Gabbard when they met. Some experts believe relationships with both an age gap and early career imbalance can introduce long-term power dynamics. A 2017 study from the Journal of Population Economics even states that couples with significant age gaps often begin experiencing dissatisfaction from six years into the marriage. However, considering that Gabbard and Williams have been together for over a decade, they just may have developed communication skills that reduce the risks such imbalances typically bring. Instead, Trombetti notes that "gossip over finances, infidelity, religion, and domestic violence" may point to the biggest red flags, since "at least some of it usually rings true."

During our exclusive chat with matchmaker Susan Trombetti, one major thing she pointed out is how rarely Tulsi Gabbard and Abraham Williams step into the spotlight. "There are some red flags for sure, but mostly the couple is very private and not much is said by them, so who knows what is true," she notes. While privacy can be a strength in any relationship, it may also raise concerns when paired with a high-stakes political career. Gabbard has made it clear she has presidential ambitions, and America's history shows that keeping a relationship private is nearly impossible when running for or serving as president.

Another possible red flag is that the pair may have to let go of their shared dream of having children. The couple has been open about their desire to have children, and Gabbard even admitted that her infertility and failed IVF took a toll. "As hard as this was for me, it was extremely hard for Abraham to just watch this, heartbreak over and over again," Gabbard told Meghan McCain on her "Citizen McCain" podcast.

Though they've paused treatment for now, Gabbard previously suggested they planned to try again. But as her political career accelerates, there's a risk that their shared dream could quietly slip out of reach. Unmet expectations, after all, can be one of the biggest reasons for resentment in marriage. However, judging by how Tulsi Gabbard and Abraham Williams speak about each other, there are no signs that they have relationship issues that can't be fixed. If the couple prioritizes connection and focuses on simple ways to improve communication in their relationship, they have a shot at building a love that lasts for life. At the end of the day, they've already made it through 10 years of marriage, which is no small feat.