How To Handle Overstimulation During Sex

If you've ever felt overstimulated during sex, you're not alone. In fact, it's a common feeling to experience soreness or numbness of the clitoris after intercourse or masturbation. Overstimulation can happen when you're too rough on the clitoris, which is one of the most sensitive erogenous areas of the body. In fact, it has more than 10,000 nerve fibers, according to OHSU. Because of that, many women experience orgasms through clitoral contact instead of vaginal or oral sex. Of course, orgasms feel amazing, but going downtown too often can have serious consequences.


For example, you can get a UTI by stimulating the clitoris with a dirty hand or vibrator. Since the vaginal opening and the clit are super close in proximity, bacteria can transfer inside the vagina, which can result in a UTI. Additionally, too much touching can lead to sexual dysfunction. Eventually, the clitoris becomes too familiar with the feeling, so sexual intercourse may not feel as satisfying. You can even lose your libido altogether. On the bright side, there are ways to handle overstimulation to prevent these repercussions.

Reach for the lube

We all know lube can make things go a lot smoother during vaginal intercourse, but did you know it can also help with overstimulation? To avoid any chafing or excessive friction to the clitoris, lube is your best bet. It will help to prevent discomfort or pain you may be experiencing during sex. Not only that, but lube can make sex much more intense, leading to greater and more powerful orgasms. You'll definitely notice an increase in the sensations during intercourse, so bust out that lube as much as you want.


A little lube goes a long way, so start with a little bit — about the size of an almond. Still, you're free to use as much as you need. There is no such thing as too much lube, so don't worry about having any consequences if you add more into the mix. For some added fun, incorporate it into your foreplay. (You can thank us later.)

Create a barrier

To ease up on the friction that's causing the overstimulation, try creating a barrier between your clit and your hand or vibrator. This can be done by keeping your underwear on, but make sure it's a soft fabric like cotton or spandex. (Lace panties are cute, but we recommend saving those for a special occasion.) You could also place a sheet over your vagina during masturbation or any time the clit is the main focus. Again, make sure it's nice and soft so it doesn't cause any irritation, or else it's counterproductive.


With that being said, Health Shots highly suggests not wearing underwear post-coital. Going commando gives your vagina the chance to breathe and calm down. (After all, it just went through a very vigorous experience.) Doing so will also decrease the risk of contracting a yeast infection. By keeping these tips in mind, as well as knowing your lust language, you'll find you have a much better sex life.