22 Tips That Make Getting Over A Crush Easier Than Ever

Unrequited love is one of the most painful human experiences to go through. When you have romantic feelings for someone, and they don't feel the same about you, it can leave you feeling rejected, unwanted, and depressed. When you have a crush on someone, you start to notice all their attractive qualities that naturally stand out to you. Maybe you adore the texture of their hair or the color of their eyes. Perhaps you love the way they smile or the tone of their voice. Maybe it's a mix of every little detail about them that draws you in. 

Crushing on someone can be pretty fun at first because it gives you the chance to daydream about the possibilities. In your imagination, you can envision what an entire future with your crush would look like from start to finish. Unfortunately, you know it's time for your longing to come to an end if you let your crush know you're into them, only to discover that the feelings aren't mutual. You can continue crushing on someone who doesn't like you back, or you can figure out how to fully move on. These are some of the most helpful tips to lean on when trying to get over a crush.

As much as you might feel tempted to blame yourself for the way things have turned out with your crush, you must reject that temptation. Don't start picking yourself apart and analyzing all the things you believe are wrong with you just because one person doesn't like you back. People who've been rejected often allow themselves to start feeling insecure, even though they shouldn't. The things your crush didn't appreciate about you are the same exact things someone else will adore about you down the line. You bring so many charming and endearing things to the table that you probably don't even notice about yourself. 

The right person will easily take note of your allure without making you feel like there's something wrong with you. Instead of indulging the temptation to self-blame, remind yourself of all the fantastic qualities you have. There are too many incredible things about you that shouldn't be ignored, even if you're the only person pointing them out at the moment. Think about your work ethic, sense of humor, generosity, or ambition for success. Every time you want to blame yourself for being unlikeable, flip those thoughts into positives.

Having a venting session with your friends might be exactly what you need in order to heal from the pain of your unrequited crush. The purpose of nurturing solid friendships is to have a wonderful support system whenever you're going through different transitions in life. When everything is smoothly coming together in all areas of your life, good friends are supposed to be cheering you on with enthusiasm. When it feels like things are falling apart, though, good friends should also be there to lift you up and help you feel better. 

Making sure you have supportive friendships to lean on in difficult moments requires a bit of effort on your part. You have to be willing to show up for your friends when they're in need as well, even if it's not convenient for you. If you've cultivated incredible friendships with reliable people, you'll have plenty of options to call when it's time for a venting session. These sessions can be so necessary because they give you the opportunity to get everything off your chest in one big emotional release. It's unhealthy to keep things bottled up inside, so venting about your feelings to people who genuinely care about you is key.

You might be incredibly tempted to post a few thirst traps on social media to grab your crush's attention. If you're not already in the know about thirst traps, they typically tend to be extra sexy pictures and videos people post when they're in need of some external validation. While you want to look and feel better in your social media pictures, unfortunately, it's pretty obvious that you're trying to overcompensate for something when you post thirst traps too quickly following a rejection. 

Being called out for posting thirst traps is one of the most embarrassing and uncomfortable situations to deal with, and it's a genuine possibility. Celebrities who have gone through public breakups have immediately opted for thirst trap posts on social media. Even famous people with loads of money, notoriety, and status have evoked public gossip and side-eyes for posting thirst traps to overcompensate. The last thing you want to do is come across as desperate or distressed over the situation. 

You also don't want to give off the vibe that you're trying to show your crush what they're missing out on. If posting thirst traps on a regular basis is already your thing, then this isn't really an issue. But if you're the type of person who posts adorable pictures of your coffee art and innocent selfies with your dog, a random thirst trap out of nowhere will definitely send the wrong message.

Meeting potential suitors by skipping out on dating apps altogether and opting for speed dating events and singles mixers is feasible. There's something very bold and brave about putting yourself out there in face-to-face situations to meet new people to date. This is an excellent option if you would rather interact with potential partners instead of sulking at home about your crush who doesn't feel the same. Depending on the city where you live, it should be easy to find speed dating events and singles mixers where you can cross paths with like-minded people looking for in-person interactions. 

Instead of matching with random people on a dating app where you're hidden behind a screen and showcasing your personality through a carefully curated profile, you can actually get to know someone in person at an event. There's no way you'll be able to think about your crush while you're in the middle of doing something so daring and unconventional. Although you might think of speed dating events and singles mixers as short-term distractions, it's possible you could meet the person you're supposed to end up with forever.

In the same way you wouldn't want to post subliminal messages about your crush on social media, you also don't want to bash them publicly. Attacking them online or otherwise is absolutely out of the question if you consider yourself an upstanding member of society. Just because something didn't work out with someone you had a crush on doesn't mean they deserve to be criticized by you to the world. This is an especially big deal if your crush was also a friend. If you actually had a friendship with this person and they confided in you at any point in time, it's unfair of you to blast their secrets or expose them for things they'd prefer to keep under wraps. 

Even if the crush isn't going to equate to a long-lasting relationship, whatever information they might've shared with you in confidence should still be kept. When you put yourself in their shoes and imagine how you feel if the roles were reversed, you would appreciate their confidentiality. Even if you don't have any lingering secrets about them at the tip of your tongue, you shouldn't say negative things about them in public settings.

Although it might put a strain on a future friendship with your crush once your feelings die down, you should unfollow and block them on social media for now if you need to. Don't continue following them on social media and staying up to date on the highlights of their life if it's causing you emotional distress and anguish. You can always re-follow them down the line when your feelings aren't so fiery and passionate. If they are way too offended by the prospect of you blocking or unfollowing them, that may be a sign they aren't meant to be in your life anyway. 

There's nothing wrong with unfollowing and blocking people you don't want to keep up with, even if it's just temporary. It's all about protecting your peace of mind and taking care of your mental health. Seeing pictures and videos of your crush chilling with someone else in the way you wanted to hang out with them might make you feel horrible. Seeing them post content that clearly proves they're moving on with their life (regardless of your feelings) can also be pretty painful to stomach.

You might need to cry it out if your emotions are way too pent up over this situation. Bottling your feelings up inside is beyond detrimental to your mental health. If you're the type of person who doesn't like crying in front of other people, find a place where you can be alone and have a one-on-one cry session with yourself. If you aren't able to start crying without an extra push, you might want to play a sad song or turn on a tear-jerker movie to get the tears flowing. 

Once you experience the emotional release of a good cry, you'll be surprised at how much better you feel. It will take time to heal from heartache, but each time you let yourself feel your feelings, you allow yourself to move forward in the healing process. The worst possible outcome that might occur from keeping your feelings bottled up too long is that you could end up having a random outburst at the wrong time and place. Before something as tragic or embarrassing as that happens, simply let yourself cry it out in a place where you feel safe without judgment.

Whether therapy sounds interesting to you or not, it's a good idea to sit down with a therapist to go through all the emotions you're feeling after dealing with a failed crush. This is a tricky subject to discuss with friends and family since you're not going through an actual breakup. Still, you're experiencing the mourning of a loss. You're feeling heartbroken over the vision you had for what could've been, and that's still valid. A therapist is trained to help you through different hardships, which means they're the best people to sit down with when you're struggling with relationship-centered issues. 

While your friends and family members will do their best to build you up with uplifting and encouraging words, they aren't professionally trained to help you get through this difficult time. A therapist who is the right fit for your needs can change your life by bringing things to your attention that you weren't aware of before. They can point things out to you that will open your eyes and make your healing process so much easier. They'll make sure you feel comfortable opening up about your grief, disappointment, and trauma regarding this particular heartache.

If you're considering drafting up a cringeworthy text message to send your crush, stop yourself in your tracks and delete it. You can always write a text to describe your frustration and disappointment and send it to a friend or save it in your notes, but you should never actually send it to your crush. Sending an emotionally-driven paragraph to your crush isn't the right thing to do since it can seem like you're trying to guilt them into liking you back. Mutual desire isn't built from a foundation of guilt — and it never will be. For these reasons, it doesn't make any sense for you to waste your time trying to make them feel bad about their unrequited feelings. 

In the larger scheme of things, you have to realize that it's not their fault they don't feel the same way. Sometimes mutual attraction just isn't there. If you aren't trying to make them feel guilty, then you're probably tempted to send that cringeworthy text to unload your resentment and exasperation onto them. Odds are, they aren't as emotionally invested in this situation as you are. At the end of the day, it doesn't benefit you to send a text you'll probably end up regretting. You send a louder message of empowerment by not saying anything at all.

There won't be any time to dwell in misery if you keep yourself as busy as possible. An action-packed schedule is the best thing to give yourself while going through heartbreak. You can make yourself busier with fun activities that help speed along your healing process as well. If you have a friend to call, you can sign up for cooking, dance, or foreign language classes. You can go on a group scavenger hunt, visit a museum, or start training for a marathon with people who have fun with. 

If you don't have any friends to call at the drop of a hat, having tons of fun by yourself is still possible while filling your calendar. Some solo activities to get excited about include thrift store treasure hunting, binge-watching brand-new shows on streaming platforms, hiking with scenic views, and feeding birds at the local park. Instead of giving yourself the opportunity to wallow at home alone on a Friday night, figure out what you can do to keep yourself as busy as possible. Schedule back-to-back events if you can so you aren't spending consecutive evenings stuck alone with your thoughts.

Even though it might not seem like the most enticing thing to do, it's in your best interest to wish your crush well. Sure, things didn't work out between you and them, but that doesn't mean you want their life to fall apart or be miserable. This is a classic case of putting yourself in your crush's shoes. If they revealed to you that they had feelings for you, but you simply didn't feel the same way, you wouldn't want them to start praying about your downfall and celebrating your failures. 

You would want them to showcase continued decency, respect, and empathy. The wonderful thing about wishing someone well, even after they've hurt you, is that it allows you to maintain a sense of inner peace. Your peace of mind should be your top priority! Sulking in anger and disappointment over how things turned out will only hurt you in the long run. Make peace with the situation by wishing them well. You'll notice that the healing process tends to become easier when you do.