How Each Zodiac Sign Shows Love
We all show love a little differently, which has a lot to do with how we have been loved in life. In fact, we learn a lot about love from how our parents showed love to one another and to us. According to Rebecca Bergen, Ph.D., "Our parents' relationship is our first and most influential example of how to interact and communicate in a romantic relationship. How love was shown between parents is influential on the child," she told Brides. Our preferred love languages have something to do with how we express our love to others as well. But we want to focus on what your zodiac sign says about how you show love.
Of course, your sun sign isn't the only aspect that affects your expressions of love -– you'll also want to see which sign falls into the asteroid Venus on your birth chart. Your sun sign focuses on your personality traits. In this way, we can see which other signs we're most compatible with, so it's definitely important to look at your sun sign when it comes to how you show love. However, Venus and Eros both dive even deeper into how we love. As Desiree Roby Antila told mbgmindfulness, "Venus really symbolizes our urge to share with others, and our desire for harmony, and to love and be loved."
Taurus will do things for you
Taurus is an earth sign, so they enjoy luxury and nice things. That includes lavishing their loved ones with gifts, as well as acts of service. If you're busy, you can expect your Taurus partner to step up and do some of the stuff you only wish you had time to do. "Taurus is the most sensual sign in the zodiac since they're ruled by Venus," astrologer Elisa Robyn, PhD, told Bustle. The gratification they get can come from more than physical pleasures though.
The most important thing to know about Taurus when it comes to falling in love is that they'll take their time getting there — they want to know you on as many levels as possible to ensure they can trust that you're in it for the long haul. Kyla Derkach, a certified astrologer, told Bustle. "The motto for this sign is 'slow and steady wins the race,' and they're notorious for taking their time. They want to be courted, and they want to be sure the person is the perfect fit for their mind, body, and soul. They're slow to commit, but once they do, they're yours for life." And, you'll know they've made that commitment when they start showering you with gifts and home-cooked meals, and finish the night off by doing the dishes too.
Virgo will give and give
Much like their earth brethren Taurus, Virgos enjoy doing things for their partners. Virgo wants you to have everything and will go out of their way to get it for you, but they also don't like to rush into love. As astrologer Heather Renae Horton told Bustle, "They're a caretaker of sorts and believe in being of service and taking responsibility. They have a high eye for detail and are always seeking improvement. When in love, Virgo pays attention to the other's details and finds ways to assist in their partner's improvement. Virgo knows they've fallen for someone when they use their critical eye to help improve their significant other." And that's when you'll know it too.
However, for some, this attention Virgo pays to even the smallest details can seem overbearing. If Virgo is showing you they love you and it feels like they're trying to take over every aspect of your life, take a moment to sit down and talk with them about how they're making you feel. If a smothering sort of love isn't what you're looking for, you definitely want to set those boundaries early on with Virgo.
Capricorn will romance you
While Capricorns are known to be workaholics, they don't always require a partner who is as driven as they are. Astrologer Isaiah Alpheratz told Nylon, "Capricorns won't always strive for someone equal or better than them; sometimes they like to be with someone who allows them to take control and guide the relationship — you will still need to offer something in return to them, though." Of course, they're the third earth sign, and thus, they also lean into those acts of service — and one of those acts is to lavish you with gifts and loyalty. If your Capricorn partner is doing things with and for you, they're showing their love.
They too take their time to fall in love, but you will surely know it when they do. Capricorns can have a tendency to sweep their partner off their feet. You'll do well to remember that they do love to stay busy though, so their attention won't always be on you. There are two things to always keep in mind. (1) When your Capricorn feels like they're being too controlling, it's an act of love (if you don't like it, you definitely want to sit down and have a conversation about it and set up some boundaries). (2) When they're in the "zone," be sure not to overstep the boundaries they've set forth either.
Gemini won't stop flirting with you
Geminis are notorious for being flirts. This stems from their air sign quality of being great conversationalists but also the fact that they love attention. They'll endlessly flirt with you, but once they're yours, you can worry less about their flirting with others. Astrologer Kreena Desai told Bonobology, "When a Gemini man is in love with you, you will automatically become his central focus. He will target more of his attention on you and can easily forget about those around him." Man or woman, Gemini is led by their need to communicate, and they are more likely to fall for someone with equally good communication skills.
You can bet that one common love language among air signs is words of affirmation — and those affirming words from them will most often make you feel like the center of their world. When that happens, you know you have your Gemini hooked and they are fully smitten with you. Gemini in love reminds us of two teenagers on the phone in the '90s arguing about who should hang up first. They want to keep talking and flirting with you because they feel a deep connection and are afraid of breaking it before you're just as smitten with them.
Libra will just come out and say it
Libra falls in love quickly; it's just in their nature. Astrologer Desiree Roby Antila told Stylecaster, "Libras are the archetypal romantics of the zodiac, and their search for partnership drives their every move." If you're with a Libra, they probably already love you. They've also said it already, most likely. They'll probably say it long before you're ready to say it in return, but that's just how they work. Libra loves being in love, so when they're single, their minds are usually on finding someone to share their lives with.
As an air sign, they have no issues communicating. They can easily tell you how they're feeling, even if they're feeling confused about those feelings — they'll happily just blurt it all out and wait for your response. They will not only tell you they love you, but Libras will show you by showering you with all things related to love, from kisses to gifts. If you're loved by a Libra, expect to hear them say that often, but you can also rest assured they'll show it too. They're not just about lip service.
Aquarius will say it only when they're ready
Aquarius is an interesting sign, beginning with the fact that it is an air sign represented by the water bearer, which often confuses some people into thinking it's a water sign. As astrologer Kesaine Walker explained to USA Today, Aquarius tends to keep the same small circle of friends for life. At times, their romantic life may come second to work. "In love, Aquarians are open-minded, sensitive, and passionate lovers who appreciate spontaneity. They will give up anything if it means staying together," Walker says.
When it comes to one-on-one relationships, this sign may feel vulnerable. If they can get over the discomfort of feeling exposed, they can be comfortable being themselves with their partner. The thing is, no matter where they fall on the natal chart, Aquarians will take their time to express their feelings of love. They'll be happy to say the words but only when they are truly ready to share those deep feelings. One of the first signs that Aquarius is getting ready to say those three words to you is if they're already making future plans with you. They're not the type to put something on the calendar that they're not absolutely sure they want to come to commit to.
Aries shows it with passion and intensity
Anyone who has been pursued by an Aries knows this fiery sign has a lot of passion. According to what astrologer Alexandria Lettman told Bustle, "Aries is the untamed wildfire of the zodiac whose energy resembles the flame of a newly lit match: While it burns fast and bright, the spark, energy, and creativity of Aries can burn out just as quickly as it is ignited [if they don't pace themselves]." Their love for you can be like a raging fire, but it can go out at the snap of your fingers if you don't work to keep the love alive. First, of course, you need to know if they're in love with you, right?
Oh, you'll know it. In the beginning, Aries will happily shout from the rooftops that they love you. However, if you don't do everything you can to keep your Aries partner creatively stimulated (enjoying similar hobbies, spending time doing things they love, working hard at intimacy), you may find your Aries ice cold and unwilling to budge from their fortress of solitude. When Aries shuts down, it takes a lot to open them up again.
Leo will give you their heart
Leos are a fire sign, so they too are passionate. They want more than fast flames, however. They want to keep those embers burning over time. As astrologer Sean Pacheco told Parade, "Leos want someone to be their rock as they can serve the same role for their partner. They have a big heart and are willing to go the extra mile to help those they care about." When you have a Leo in love with you, you will find someone who wants you to be a success — they'll be your cheerleader and your guiding hand.
They won't hide their feelings from you, so you can expect a Leo to let you know when they are in love. They'll say it right to your face, but they will also back it up with lots of generosity. Leos likes to be the center of attention, which is common knowledge to anyone who follows astrology. This means that there can be feelings of jealousy if anyone gets in the way of them when it comes to looking to you for affection. They want you all to themselves, so be sure that you're ready for commitment if you're in a position to be loved by a Leo.
Sagittarius prefers showing love through actions, not words
Sagittarius is one of the most adventurous of the zodiac signs. Rather than offering gifts and false promises, Sagittarius will take you on an adventure that will show you just what it is like to be swept off your feet. As astrologers Amy Zerner and Monte Farber told Bustle, "In relationships, they're totally honest with their loved ones. They aren't apt to be too demonstrative. They also aren't much for showering their partner with gifts or flowers, which is a character trait that may be misconstrued as a lack of warmth or consideration. However, they will make it exciting for their beloved in other ways."
Luckily, Sagittarians are also known for their utter honesty. If your person hasn't said those three magic words to you yet, just ask them! They won't hesitate to divulge their true feelings for you, but only ask if you're ready to hear whatever answer they have to give you. If you have any doubts in what their answer will be, it's definitely not the right time to ask. Instead, their gestures will tell you what's in their heart.
Cancer shows love through offering security
Cancers are known as the most emotional of the water signs in the zodiac, and they're also commonly thought of as being extremely connected to their family and friends. The people they allow in their inner circle mean everything to them, and they show their love by holding those people up. The thing is, Cancer likes to be sure that their love is real before they dive all in. As astrologer Kristina Semos put it to Bustle, "Once they realize they can trust and possibly depend on you, then the 'falling in love' can be almost instant. It's like a car driving at five miles per hour for several blocks and then all of a sudden hitting the gas and going 60."
If you're looking for love that makes you feel secure, look for a Cancer. Once they hit those high speeds and tell you that what they're feeling really is love, they will start showing you those feelings too, by being your biggest fan, your cheerleader, your nurse when you're feeling ill, and so much more. They will become the rock on which you lean, but you better be sure you're there for them as well, or things could start to fall apart quickly.
Scorpio will shower you with intense emotion
Scorpio is one of the signs that gets a bad reputation — sometimes because of the body part they rule (the genitals) and sometimes because of their fiery emotional nature. They often get mistaken as a fire sign because of their passionate responses to the things life throws at them, including love. But, they are really just another one of the emotional water signs looking for something solid in their lives. When a Scorpio falls in love with you, you'll know by the myriad emotions they're throwing your way: sometimes seemingly hot, while other times cold as ice. They are intense, and they are stubborn — so they will push their love on you even if you aren't ready for it, and pout if you don't return their feelings.
While they may be mysterious and hard to read at times, Scorpios don't just throw their love around to whomever. Like astrologer Desiree Roby Antila told Stylecaster, "Scorpios are not commonly able to emotionally detach their feelings from physical oneness. Therefore, this makes it very difficult for them to share themselves intimately with someone they do not care for."
Pisces shows love with deep connections
One interesting thing to know about Pisces is that, as the final zodiac sign, they have a little bit of all the other signs in them. This makes them able to get along with anyone at any time, but it also makes them the victims of some not-so-happy love affairs. As a sign that falls in love easily, a jaded Pisces is sure to have up a plethora of borders by now. However, when you do break down enough of those walls down to get inside and see them for who they really are, you can expect a deep, spiritual connection with this sign. How to know they love you? They'll tell you, but they'll also show you by sharing their lives with you, including their deep, dark secrets. Just don't ever do anything to break their trust or you'll see the dark fish come out.
It's also important to note, as astrology expert Imani Quinn pointed out to mbgmindfulness, "They're a water sign, and they're a mutable sign, so that can make them very impressionable in love. They can kind of take on the personality of the person they're dating, especially if the person they're dating has a stronger personality." This means that you can expect to see the love you give Pisces reflected back at you, at times.