Our Best Tips For Making Your Second Date Memorable

First dates may be all the hype, but second dates are the true test of compatibility — and they can be just as exciting, if not more. If you're going on a second date, you can take a sigh of relief because chances are that your initial date went pretty well, and you're both interested in seeing each other again (and you're pretty sure they're not a serial killer or kidnapper). Now with the first date awkwardness and jitters out of the way, it's time to plan a memorable, more relaxed second date.


A second date can truly make or break a relationship because you're starting to have deeper conversations to see if you have long-lasting chemistry or if the initial sparks will just fizzle out. So, how do you make your second date memorable? Lucky for you, we've put together a list of tips to help you have the best second date possible.

Pick an activity that you can bond over

If you were paying attention on your first date, then you probably have some idea of what your date likes to do for fun. Perhaps the two of you even bonded over your shared love of something. For instance, were they raving about a new book that they were reading? Maybe the two of you shared a love of sports? Tap into whatever you may have bonded over to help guide you on what to do for your second date.


Did you know that oxytocin, also known as the love hormone, is often released when we engage in recreational activities? This is especially heightened when touch is involved or there's a sense of connection, according to a study published in the Journal of Marriage and Family. A second date is a perfect time to boost oxytocin by engaging in an activity that you've previously bonded over with a partner. 

Try to incorporate or mesh your personalities together into an activity that represents you both. If you're both adventurous and can easily laugh at yourselves, going roller skating may be a great second-date activity. On the other hand, if you're more introverted and bonded over food, perhaps cooking a cozy meal at home would be a better-suited activity for the two of you.


Reminisce your first date

Your first date had to go pretty well in order for you to land a second one. Coffee Meets Bagel, a San Francisco–based dating app, put this to the test by polling 1,000 successful couples who found each other on the app. According to the poll's findings released to Cision PR Newswire, "77% of couples planned their second date during their first date, or the day after." So, if your first date was truly a success, it could help to reminisce about it on the second date. 


Now, this doesn't have to mean doing the exact same thing as your first date. If you two loved your first date because of the romantic atmosphere, consider replicating that atmosphere for your second date. For example, if your first date was a picturesque picnic, you could plan on watching the sunset or lounging at the beach for your second date. This way, the activity is different, yet you're still basking in the romance and relaxed environment of your first date.

On the other hand, if your first date was an absolute nightmare, but you still decided to give your date another chance, maybe it's something that you can laugh about. Chances are, your date probably felt the same level of awkwardness. At the end of the day, it'll be something that the two of you can either fondly remember or make fun of together.


Play tourist in your own city

Nothing makes for a better date than getting to know your own city better. Whether you're fairly new to town or have lived there your whole life, consider this as an opportunity to show each other your favorite spots. Who knows, maybe you'll learn something along the way about your own town. This activity can also be a great conversation starter for you and your date to remember and share stories you have from a certain spot in town.


Your second date is a great chance for you to get to seal your good first impression. This is why going for an activity that is meaningful and reveals a bit about you can be a safe bet. You can try to play tourist in your own city by going on a food crawl of all your favorite local spots. If your date is down to have some fun, you can even switch off being tour guides and showing each other around. To make things even more memorable, consider snapping a few funny pictures in front of the most touristy locations.

Show your date your favorite restaurant

If you're a foodie, then you know just how enjoyable it is to bond over food. Plus, if you pick a restaurant that you already love as a second date spot, it can be a cute way to showcase your personality and share a bit about yourself through food. When it comes to picking between restaurants that you love, aim for something more casual and relaxed since it's only a second date. You should also factor in the music and general ambiance of the restaurant as well as the type of food that your date likes or dislikes to ensure it's a good fit.


Food and romance can often go hand in hand. Remember the iconic dinner date scene from "Lady and the Tramp" where they share meatballs and pasta? Just imagine having this bond with your date over a delicious meal or sharing the sweetest dessert together.

Play your favorite song for them

Your favorite song might have a good story attached to it, or maybe it just shows your date the type of music that you're into. Perhaps it's something that they might even like. After all, if this date ends up being your partner, wouldn't you want them to love or, at the very least, tolerate your go-to playlist?


 Music has a strong influence on people's lives and according to a study published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences: Performing and listening to music we like has been linked to increased dopamine or happiness and contentment. It's also a great way to connect with others. Even amidst the COVID-19 pandemic, people turned to music as a source of comfort and to feel socially connected, per research published in American Psychologist. This is why music can help you feel closer, even just on your second date. You can start the conversation by trying to ask your date about the type of music they listen to or even the first concert they ever went to. If you happen to like similar music, share songs or recommend certain artists to each other.


Watch your favorite romantic movie

A glass of wine, a big tub of popcorn, and of course, your favorite romantic movie: How does that sound for a relaxing and comfortable second date? While you probably want to avoid a first-date trip to the movies for the sake of getting to know your date better, an at-home movie night can be the perfect way to set the mood for your second date. The best part is that you can set up a memorable date right in the comfort of your own home. Just grab some pillows, blankets, and a few candles to make it extra cozy.


If you don't have a certain movie choice in mind, you can also take advantage of streaming services like Netflix and Hulu to help narrow your selection depending on the type of movie that you and your date prefer. This will also help you learn more about the kinds of things your date likes to watch. If you're still in doubt about what movie to go with, consider a classic romantic movie like "Titanic" or "The Notebook" to really help set the mood for a love-filled evening.

People-watch together at your nearest park

It may sound weird to go people-watching on a second date, but it can actually be really easy and lots of fun. In fact, you can turn it into a fun game or even a scavenger hunt of sorts where you're on the hunt for a number of things, like three people with sunglasses or six people wearing shorts. All you have to do for this activity is head to your nearest local park or a crowded spot and cozy up next to your date.


Not only does people-watching make way for some exciting conversation starters, but you'll also get a chance to see what your date is like when observing other people. People-watching can be entertaining if for nothing else than to nurture our curiosity. It can be fun to just lighten up the date and see what people around you are up to. Appreciating your surroundings can also bring you and your date closer together and give you a glimpse of how they view the world.

Catch a glimpse of the sunrise or sunset

Watching the sunrise or sunset together can be a great second-date idea. Both are equally exciting and wonderful ways to express your shared love for nature. You can choose to start your day early by packing breakfast, grabbing a warm rug or blanket, and then driving to a place filled with natural beauty where you can watch the rising sun. If you are both morning people or early risers, then this may be a better option for you that also creates a refreshing and peaceful start to your day.


On the flip side, watching the sun go down can be incredibly romantic. You can do so from a city rooftop, garden, or even the beach. Essentially, anywhere where you can get an incredible view of the sun and relax works. The setting sun can be an incredible memory to share together and help you feel present. This can also pair well with a dinner date. Just be sure to check the times that the sun is rising or setting for the day so that you don't miss it!

Cook a meal with your date

Cooking a meal together with your date might seem simple, but it can actually be really fun and exciting. And it's a surefire way to break the ice on your second date. This is the perfect at-home date night idea that can take away the distractions of a restaurant and make the date seem more genuine and natural. It's also a great way to be playful. For instance, you and your date can take turns being the head chef and sous-chef. If you want to really impress your date, consider cooking them a multiple-course meal and serving them in a restaurant-like fashion at home.


When it comes to choosing a meal to cook at home, you don't need to be a culinary expert to have a good time. Something as easy as cooking a homemade pizza together can be really fun. Just grab different toppings and get to work. You can also pair it with some red wine or a drink of your choice. Having a s'mores night or strawberries and chocolate could be another sweet treat.

Plan a karaoke night and perform together

Name a better way to let loose than karaoke. Of course, if you don't have any singing talent, there's no need to worry. The goal of karaoke is to have fun and venture outside your comfort zone. You may feel a bit too shy around your new date to sing karaoke, but this is what makes the activity so fun. It urges the two of you to be bold together and sing your hearts out.


If you're not up for a karaoke night at a bar, consider having a karaoke party at home. All you need is a TV screen to see the lyrics of the song, a microphone, and an instrumental playlist that you can sing your heart out to. You can even set up the atmosphere to get your date in the mood with some party lighting, disco balls, and finger food. If you're on a budget, you can get creative and use a makeshift microphone, such as your round hair brush. You can even invite some close friends over to bond with your date if you're worried about things being awkward. Just remember to be yourself and get your singing on if you want to make this date a memorable one.

Take a dance class with your date

Did you know that dancing can help you both physically and spiritually connect? Dancing can also be used as a way to flirt and have a silent but romantic conversation together. So, if you're looking for sparks on your second date, take your partner to a dance class where you can learn some new moves together. Plus, if you're comfortable and interested, dancing can provide a way to be physically closer to your date.


Just like karaoke, dancing nudges people out of their comfort zone. There are so many different dances that you can choose from, but you may want to first consider your date's personality and what they feel comfortable with. For instance, if you want an excuse to dress up and feel elegant, consider ballroom dancing like waltz or tango. If you're into hip-hop music, a hip-hop dance class could be really fun to improvise some dance moves with your partner.

Consider a beach picnic

Beach picnic dates are always an affordable yet picture-perfect option. First, you just have to find a beach with a little bit of privacy where you can set up a picnic blanket. Ideally, you'll come prepared with a picnic basket filled with all the essentials like food, utensils, water, and perhaps even an umbrella to give you some shade. A charcuterie board is a perfect snack to bring with you to your date. Just add some type of fruit, cheese, chocolate, and meat, and you're ready to go.


Be sure to give your date a heads-up to bring a swimsuit with them so that you can also swim in the water if it's nice outside. A long romantic walk on the beach can also make your date feel more intimate. If you prefer, you can find out if dogs are allowed and bring your furry friends along as your date companions. For a great activity to accompany your picnic, try collecting seashells together. If you are looking to just relax, simply bring some sunscreen and lay out in the sun together after your picnic.

Go thrifting and pick out a date outfit for each other

You can take all the pressure off what to wear on your date by going thrifting with your date and picking out an outfit for them. Since it's your second date, you'll have a general sense of their style based on the first date. This way, you shop for affordable items and also figure out if your date likes fashion.  This is important because when you're in a relationship, at some point or another, your partner will probably tag along with you while you shop. So, shopping on your second date can show you their fashion sense, how much they are willing to spend on an outfit, and their patience.


In order to maximize your next thrift shopping experience, start by doing some research beforehand on the shops you're visiting to see if they might have the attire that you're looking for. You should also aim to wear an outfit that you can easily move around in and try on outfits over in case the thrift store doesn't have a fitting room available. Try to make the shopping experience more memorable by turning the activity into a game to see who can find the best outfit for the other person.

Go on a scenic hike

Taking a picturesque hike is a great way to make a second date more fun. Now that you've experienced a first date with this person, you can see what a trek brings out in them. First, make sure to check with your date if they feel comfortable doing a hike physically. Then, narrow down to a location that has some good views and is beginner-friendly. Ideally, choosing a park that is nearby and not in the middle of nowhere would probably be the best option for safety reasons. Look for a trail with enough room that you can walk next to each other for the best experience.


Since a hike is all about getting to the top, you'll have plenty of time to get to know your date more personally. Plus, if the two of you really enjoy your hiking experience, it'll be a great activity to bond over in the future. Just be sure to wear some sensible sneakers and a workout set that makes you feel confident. Carrying a backpack with important supplies like water, bandaids, food, and a map or directions for the trail in case you get lost can also help you feel prepared. Lastly, just be sure to check on the weather before you leave for your date.

Get crafty by making some art together

Art has the power to connect and heal. "Connecting to our living environment through enjoying public art in urban spaces can change how we understand the world, help us relax and reduce stress and anxiety, and provide memorable experiences," said Garrette Clark, UN Environment's sustainable lifestyles programme officer, via UN Environment Programme. Attempt to connect to your environment and draw inspiration from art in public spaces on your date. Just bring along some colored pencils and markers as well as sketchbooks or coloring books to doodle on. You can also bring paint and blank canvases and paint a picture of your scenery or even each other. This will serve as a great opportunity to showcase your creativity and will allow you and your date to just have fun, de-stress, and enjoy each other's company.


If you're not really the crafty type, you can also visit an art museum together and admire the different pieces on display. You can use this opportunity to turn the date into a really romantic one that you can dress elegantly for and have a candlelight dinner afterward to completely charm your date.

Take them stargazing

There's a reason movies and books romanticize lying under the stars with a love interest. After all, how enchanting does a second date sound where you simply lie on a blanket underneath the night sky and watch the moon and stars together? The key to a successful stargazing date is finding an appropriate location. Someplace with an unobstructed view of the sky is a good option.


A hot summer night after the sun sets is the perfect time to gear up to go on a stargazing date. Just be sure to dress comfortably for lying down and also pack a jacket or blanket since it can get chillier at night. You can also bring some snacks or drinks to add charm to the date. If you want to come extra prepared, you can try to bring some binoculars. The darker the night sky, the better chance you have of getting a clear view of the stars. You can also check out what phase the moon will be in before you go, as two weeks before or after the new moon is typically the best time to see stars (per NASA).

Head to your nearest library and pick out books for each other

If you're a book lover, then you'll surely appreciate this wholesome date. Your shared interest in books can also create the perfect conversation starter. There's so much you can tell about someone from the type of books they like. For instance, if your date loves period dramas, then perhaps they also share a love for history that you can inquire about. Since this is a second date, it can also take the pressure off having to talk too much and help you gauge if you're comfortable enough with the other person to read for a bit in silence.


A night away at the library can also be interactive. Try to find a book that reminds you of each other, or you could make it sentimental by showing them books that really resonate with you. The two of you could also make it more intimate by reading a heartfelt book together and then discussing it over coffee afterward. Of course, make sure that your date likes to read beforehand so that they can also enjoy this date.

Break a sweat together with a workout

Now it might sound weird to get sweaty on your second date, but working out together can be a real treat. The nice thing about doing a workout date is that there are so many different workout activities to choose from. So, if you're not a gym buff, you can still have tons of fun by going swimming together or taking a yoga class. The goal of this is to just get your body moving and learn about your date while doing so.


Working out together may seem like a challenge, but it's a great way to get to see who a person really is and how they face challenges. It's always a plus when the person you like is also someone who motivates you, and this date gives you the perfect opportunity to find out if they are doing that for you. You can also look forward to the endorphins, or the hormones secreted after a good workout, which can increase attraction (via the Medium). If you're worried about them seeing you struggling during an intense workout, you can opt to take things at your own pace with a brisk walk or some light stretches.

Show off your goofy side

Yes, dates can be awkward. You want the other person to like you while also trying to figure out if you like them. This adds up to a lot of pressure that can make us feel on edge. If you're looking for a sure way to impress your date, just relax and have fun. A survey commissioned by the dating service Plenty of Fish and OnePoll found that out of 2,000 single Gen Z and millennial Americans, a majority of respondents believed that being goofy is extremely attractive. "More than half (59%) of singles feel like they can only let their guard down and be themselves on a second or third date, rather than the first." (per the New York Post). So your second date might be the right time to win them over with your sense of humor.


How do you be funny and unleash your inner child without scaring your date off? Well, just try to be yourself and throw in one or two jokes to make your date smile. You can even share a funny meme or video if that makes you more comfortable. If you're a ball of nerves or just feeling awkward, be honest with them and try to make light of the situation. As long as you put in an effort and let your guard down, your date should be able to see just how fun you truly are.

Establish good eye contact

Having good eye contact with your date is key to establishing intimacy. Of course, this can be hard to do when you're just getting to know someone, but understanding its importance is crucial. Eye contact is a key nonverbal form of communication that can be used to express various forms of emotion. For instance, if you both use sultry eye contact to exchange long-lasting gazes at each other simultaneously, it can be very romantic or flirty.


While eye contact can signal that you're interested in someone, it can also be a great way to establish and increase empathy between individuals (per BetterUp). If you think about it, we often use eye contact and other nonverbal body language cues like nodding to show that someone holds our interest or to show them respect. If you establish good eye contact with your date, it will let them know that you're listening to them and help them feel valued during your date.

Get your flirt on

A sure way to make your second date memorable is by getting your flirt on. If you feel clueless about how to do this, here are a few tips to help you out. For starters, try to get into the right frame of mind for your date. If you're in a happy or excited state mentally, it's likely that you will reflect and carry this positive energy with you to your date.


You've probably heard that there's something sexy about someone who carries themselves with confidence, and this couldn't be more true for a date. Your date will probably be able to sense how comfortable you are, and feeling assured of yourself can help you put your best foot forward. You can also think about playfully teasing your date and gauge how they respond. If you're both open to it, you can inch physically closer to them. Attempt to build up the tension slowly by leaning in close and whispering in their ear or by brushing your arms or legs against theirs. Also, be sure to gauge how your date responds to you to see if you are matching energies or on the same page.

Make sure you still dress to impress

How do you pick the perfect second-date attire? The good news is that they've already seen you once, so you don't have to worry about first impressions. Since it's still early on, you want to make sure that you put together an outfit that makes you feel confident and impresses your date. Most of all, you should make sure that your outfit matches what you plan to do. If you're heading out for a casual beach picnic, you definitely don't want to put on your favorite cocktail dress or a suit and tie.


Your wardrobe is like your own personal brand. This is why staying true to your authentic self is really important when picking out an outfit to look and feel your best on your next date. If you're a more casual person, stay true to it by putting on your favorite denim with a dressier top. This will make you feel comfortable and, in turn, radiate confidence. On the other hand, if you're going on a fancier dinner date, dressing up more in some stylish pants or a colorful dress can help you stand out. Just be sure that you're choosing a slightly more elevated outfit than what you'd wear on a normal day in order to truly wow your date.

Ask some deeper questions

Date number two is the perfect time to dig a little deeper and start asking your date a few thoughtful questions to strengthen your connection. Hopefully, on your first date, you got to know a little bit about their overall personality. Now, you can start to ask a few questions about their passions, their views on relationships, and what their family or friends are like. The goal here is to feel more closely connected with your date and have a thought-provoking conversation.


You can ask them questions like what their perfect day looks like or the scariest thing they've ever done. These kinds of questions not only help you understand how they think but can also make for great stories. If you are having trouble distinguishing if a question is appropriate or not to ask on the second date, try to imagine how you would feel answering the same question. Chances are that you'll have to answer the same question that you asked, so if you feel uncomfortable answering it, then you probably shouldn't ask it.

Set your expectations on physical intimacy

Physical intimacy is an expression of your emotions and a way of bonding with your partner. Yet, it is also unique to each individual and entirely dependent on what or how much physical interaction you prefer. This is why it's a good idea to bring up the topic early and make sure that you and your date are on the same page. If you don't kiss a partner until the third date, let it be known. Because communication is key to a healthy relationship, beginning on this note ensures that you'll start off on the right foot. This also avoids any awkwardness like your date leaning in for a kiss and you completely swerving it.


It can seem intimidating to talk about your views on sex and physical intimacy, but the best way to talk about the topic is just to rip the bandaid off and flat-out ask your partner how much physical intimacy they are comfortable with on a date. Physical intimacy can be a big part of relationships, so if you and your partner don't align about your views on it, talking about it early on during dating can save you the time of dealing with this tough conversation later on in the relationship.

Don't sweat the awkward silences

Let's face it, an awkward silence on a date can feel, well, awkward. It is a common misconception that if the conversation doesn't flow smoothly on a date, then you are perhaps not right for each other. However, it's completely normal and, in fact, common to have them on a date. The truth is that a lull in the conversation is bound to happen when you're just getting to know someone and most of the time, it's not as bad as you think it is.


The next time there's a pause or silence in the conversation, try to embrace it instead of fearing it. This can be possible by simply recognizing that silence is normal and by taking in your surroundings instead. For example, if you are on a scenic walk or a picnic date, just try to be present and appreciate the nature around you. If you find yourself especially nervous and tongue-tied, it can also be helpful to just be up-front with your date. They'll likely share your nerves and appreciate your honesty.

Show that you're having fun through your body language

Your body language can speak volumes as to how you're feeling. We interpret people's body language and nonverbal cues every day in order to sense their moods. If someone is smiling, they feel warm and inviting versus if they have their arms crossed and are frowning. In order to impress your date and signal that you are enjoying the date, be sure to maintain eye contact and smile. You can also try to relax, unclench your jaw, and stand tall in order to project confidence.


You can even read your date's body language to dissect how they are feeling. A tell-tale sign that someone likes you lies in their feet. That's right, if your date has their feet and body turned towards you, then their open body language suggests that they are listening to you and feeling comfortable with you (per Science of People). The same goes for if they are mirroring your body language, like tilting their head in the same direction as you or moving in overall synchronized harmony with you.

Share a moment of vulnerability with them

Did you know that over 93% of people on Hinge prefer to date someone who's emotionally vulnerable (per HuffPost)? Being emotionally vulnerable essentially means putting yourself out there, being open about your fears or anxieties, and displaying your raw emotions. This can feel quite uncomfortable to reveal when you're just getting to know someone. However, it's also one of the best ways to develop a close emotional bond.


"People do get frustrated when they are going on first or second dates and they feel like they don't know who is behind the mask," says Lisa Bobby, psychologist and clinical director of Growing Self Counseling & Coaching in an interview with Make It. Honestly, the two of you want to know who the other person really is. While you don't have to spill your deepest secret, you can cut to the chase by choosing to share a specific moment of vulnerability with them, like what scares you the most or what you're really passionate about in life. This will not only help them better understand you but also might nudge them to reveal more about themselves.

Start planning your third date

When you go on a date, the goal is to get to know someone and, ideally, keep spending time with them. If your date goes well, then it's time to start thinking about your third date. After all, you don't want to miss the chance to see them again. The best time to plan your third date if you're feeling the spark is toward the end of the second date. You can prompt the conversation by saying something along the lines of "I had such a great time today and would love to see you again." If they respond back with interest, then you can get to work on suggesting an idea for the next date.


However, if you're not feeling so confident or forward, there might be an easier option. Try suggesting a movie or activity that you think they would love or are enthusiastic about. This will make a great transition into seeing if they're open for a third date. Alternatively, you can also text your date after the second date to see if they made it home safely or just to tell them how much you enjoyed the date. If your date fails to respond or is curt, then they may not be feeling the same sparks as you. However, taking the leap of faith to send them a text or ask them on a third date could very well secure you another exciting date.